A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to Humility
Monday, March 2, 2026
Prisoners of Hope
Tuesday, February 24, 2026
Bridal Shower Barrage
And since there was no profound marriage advice in my blog, I thought I would share with the bride to be some of the things I wish I’d known earlier in my marriage:
My husband can’t read my mind.
If Reed was capable of reading my mind, he would not have given me a cheese platter as the first Valentine’s gift of our married lives. I like cheese, but it felt more like an employee of the month reward than a romantic gesture. After we had children, I was a stay at home mom, so my main contribution to family finances was to save us money, not earn it. Part of that savings was by providing meals at home but—3 times a day, every day, even for someone like me who enjoys cooking, gets tiring. Sometimes I wanted to go out for dinner or for Reed to pick up a pizza or burgers on the way home. But I felt guilty about the expense, so I wanted him to suggest it. Somehow my brainwaves could not transmit that message 14 miles to the airport where he worked. Even when he called and asked “What’s for dinner?” and I said ,”I don’t know” he could not pick up on my thought transmissions. After hearing this advice several years into our marriage, at someone else’s bridal shower, I gave up the minding reading act and just told him when I wanted restaurant food. He was happy to do so, always had been, I just needed to say it.
I am not my husband’s Holy Spirit.
When our kids are little, we parents are the ones who help them apply Bible truth to their lives. Until they know the Lord and understand how to listen to the Spirit, we play the role as the spirit in their lives. But because of that, ans a desire to be helpful, and a sinful desire to tell people what to do, that can overflow into trying to be Holy Spirit Junior in our husband’s lives. I’m sure the day I learned in Bible study that that was not my role in Reed’s life was one of his happiest days in our marriage. Although I do need frequent reminders from the real Holy Spirit, that he knows how to guide my husband better than I do.
Embrace the differences.
Men are different from women and those differences should be celebrated—especially by the women. One of those differences is spitting. You will not find a group of women standing around visiting and have one suddenly turn around and hawk a loogie on the ground. That is a guy thing. I spent some time contemplating why men spit. They produce more saliva than women but their bodies are equipped to handle the load. I concluded that the main reason men spit is because they can. But another thing that comes out of men’s mouths is words. They do not have as many words to spit out of their system as women do. "Anna", I know enough about you and your fiance to know you have a different amount of words inside you that need to come out. That is something you’ll need to figure out together. Both words and silence can be too much of a good thing. And Anna, even after decades of marriage, you will sometimes turn to that person you know and love more than anyone on earth and say, “Why on earth did you even think that?” The answer, because he’s a man, that’s why.
Timing is everything.
but they are old hands
with age spots, crepey skin,
yet warm enough.
Those early years
short on money
long on kids, holding jobs,
just holding on.
And later on
our children have grown
our savings too, leisure time,
enjoying life.
Decades ago
I knew this day would come,
growing old, side by side,
still holding hands.
Monday, February 9, 2026
The Connie Codes
Thursday, February 5, 2026
Most Exalted Evil Master
My favorite C.S. Lewis book is "The Screwtape Letters", in which the demon Screwtape is advising his nephew Wormwood in the art of tempting believers in Christ into sin or, at least, apathy. In that vein, though not with Lewis' talent, I have created a series of emails from a demon in charge of child sacrifice to his boss, Satan.
Email:
From: Mmolechson@satansrealm.gov/deptofinhumanservices
To: Dragon@darkworld.gov
Most Exalted Evil Master, 312 A.D
Thursday, January 29, 2026
Deceived Stupidity
I admit the ongoing Anti-Ice protests tempt me to despair at the deceived stupidity of so many of my fellow citizens. But if I let that persuade me that God has lost control of his planet, my country, or even just Minneapolis, then I am part of the deceived stupidity.
Wednesday, January 21, 2026
The Company of Men
This is the poem I had in mind before writing The Men of the Palace. I realized the reason I sacrifice so much of my Saturday to Tool Palace visits when I am not in the market for used tools is because I have always enjoyed the company and conversation of men. Since I am there with my husband and the other men's wives are not around to feel insecure, I can relax and be myself.
The Company of Men
The Men of the Palace
It has been weeks since I have had anything ready for my Saturday poetry swap with Fred, poet laureate of The Tool Palace. Saturday he made it clear that I needed to jack hammer my writer's block out of the way and bring him a poem. Since he wrote a poem about Tool Palace last week from his perspective, I decided to write one from mine.
The Men of the Palace